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ARE YOU LIVING WITH FAITH OR LIVING IN FEAR?
SANGUINE IN INCLUSION-CONTROL-AFFECTION
AUTHOR
Dr. Phyllis J. Arno
Faith is a fruit of the Spirit and available to all.
Love, Joy, Peace,
Longsuffering, Gentleness, Goodness,
FAITH, Meekness, Temperance
Galatians 5:22-23 KJV
Living with faith means that you are grounded on the solid rock-JESUS.
Living in fear means that you are NOT grounded on the solid rock.
Living in fear means that your house is built on the sand.
The sand contains:
hatred sadness retaliation
insecurity frustration bitterness
stress unforgiveness violence
disbelief unhappiness hypocrisy
guilt jealousy depression
anxiety criticism murder
prejudice drugs vengeance
anger resentment alcohol
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT FAITH
Hebrews 11:1: Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.
Romans 10:17: So, then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God
I Peter 1:7: That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honor and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ
I Timothy 6:12: Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold of eternal life…
II Timothy 4:7: I have fought a good fight. I have finished my course; I have kept the faith.
James 2:26: For as the body without the spirit is dead, so faith without works is dead also.
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT REWARDS OF FAITH
Power to become the sons of God. See John 1:12
Power to do mighty works. See John 14:12
Kept in perfect peace. See Isaiah 26:3
Kept safe. See Proverb 29:25
Having assurance of prayer answered. See I John 5:14
Will not be confounded (confused). See I Peter 2:6
WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT FEAR
There are good fears and bad. The latter kind come from wrong believing and open the door to doubt and hinder the flow of God’ power.
The Greek word “deilia” is for a cowardly fear; not being able to face a problem, but rather, running from it.
There is also the fear of people or things, based on perceptions and/or lies.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love. See I John 4:18
I sought the Lord, and he heard me, and delivered me from ALL my fears. See Psalm 34:4
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. See II Timothy 1:7
Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness. See Isaiah 41:10
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil (fear of dying). See Psalm 23:4
See also Psalm 91 and Psalm 121.
PLEASE REMEMBER, FEAR CAN PARALYZE YOU SO THAT YOU CANNOT OPERATE IN FAITH. IF FEAR IS IN CONTROL, IT WILL PUSH OUT FAITH.
LET’S LOOK AT SOME OF THE FEARS OF A SANGUINE IN INCLUSION
FEAR OF REJECTION
They will tend to take on the morals of the crowd in order to keep from being rejected. This sometimes means that they will say and do things that they know are wrong.
FEAR OF BEING UNABLE TO SOCIALIZE
They need to be out with the crowd, as they are fast-paced and need to be where the action is--socializing with people. This is because people tend to energize them. They may swing downward and become depressed if they are unable to socialize.
FEAR OF BEING AROUND PEOPLE THAT WANT TO WORK/TASK ALL THE TIME
They tend to become stressed and impatient with people who want to work/task all the time. This is because they are relationship oriented not task oriented.
FEAR OF NOT BEING THE CENTER OF ATTENTION
They tend to require a lot of intention and if they do not receive attention, they tend to say and do things to receive this attention.
LET’S LOOK AT SOME OF THE FEARS OF A SANGUINE IN CONTROL
FEAR OF NOT RECEIVING RECOGNITION AND APPROVAL FOR THEIR ACCOMPLISHMENTS
When they do not receive recognition for their accomplishments, they will tend to become self-indulgent, drop everything they are doing and swing from being independent to dependent. During this time, they tend to become unproductive.
FEAR OF PEOPLE TRYING TO CONTROL THEM
They tend to want to be in control; however, they tend to want people to work “with” them but not to control them. If people do try to control them, they will just walk away from what they were doing and go and self-indulge.
FEAR OF BEING CRITICIZED
They tend to not receive criticism very well. If people do criticize them, this can throw them into their Sanguine swing. When this happens, they will go and self- indulge. Then, when they begin to feel unproductive they will swing back up and take charge.
LET’S LOOK AT SOME OF THE FEARS OF A SANGUINE IN AFFECTION
FEAR OF REJECTION
They tend to try harder to please their deep relationships, however if their expressions are rejected, they may stop initiating and seek love and affection elsewhere.
FEAR OF NOT RECEIVING ASSURANCE THAT THEY ARE LOVED BY THEIR DEEP RELATIONSHIPS
The tend to pull away, sulk and be devastated if not constantly reassured that their deep relationships love them. They need to learn that they cannot expect their deep relationships to act and react as they do because their deep relationships may not express or respond to the same amount of love and affection.
FEAR OF NOT BEING LOVED EXCLUSIVELY
They tend to fear and be jealous of their deep relationships when they express love and attention to others. When this happens, they tend to swing downward and pull away from this deep relationship.
NOTE: “A Sanguine is a Sanguine is a Sanguine.” In other words, a Sanguine needs to be with people because people energize them. It does not matter whether they are Sanguine in Inclusion, Control or Affection, the bottom line is: THEY NEED PEOPLE.
Please remember that these are temperament tendencies. Their walk with the Lord, their birth order and their learned behavior will tend to affect their temperament.
It is important to let them know these are tendencies and because of the effects of the above, some of the tendencies may not apply to them.
You need to explain to your counselees that there are no good or bad temperaments. God created all temperaments with strengths, weaknesses, and needs.
When you are disseminating the APS tendencies to your counselees, you need to start out by saying: “People with your temperament tend to do….”. By doing this, you are letting them know that they are not the only ones with this temperament.
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